Wedding

This is inspired by the Valentine’s that is coming close.

I talked to some of my close high-school and college classmates on the New Year and many of them asked me about my love life and when I would get married with all of their interest and curiousity. Those are the first things I know I will always be asked. I told them that I was still single and a friend even reacted: “why is that?” This question could be considered rude and stupid in Western culture. I don’t consider it’s rude, but as I have said somewhere, it could make me feel uncomfortable.

My sister recently asks me this same type of question. Last time, I had to show her my discomfort by saying: “Don’t you have any other things to talk about?” She then laughed and said: “Don’t be too insane”. I am not insane so I talked her back: “Do you remember how fun it was being single? Have you ever thought about being single again and have a first date with a sexy guy? How exciting it would be to see a new guy instead of a too-frequently-seen and growing-belly guy – I meant her husband? Do you remember when you were out late with friends and even stayed over night at their places? How free were you? So stop asking me that same question as single is great and I enjoyed every minute of it. In addition, both single and relationship have the same ups and downs so don’t even think one state is superior to the other, especially when we live in the 21st century.”

That said. But I guess my all-time-sweet dream would also have to go down to a wedding. I am not the type of rebel like the kid in the book “The catcher in the rye”. So, I would like to talk about wedding. Where do I want to have my wedding? Las Vegas, or NYC? Hell, No. I hate big weddings and noisy places. In a church? That is possible. There are so many liberal and non-crazy churches that we would wed in, especially if my other half is Christian. How cool it would be to have a wedding in a nice chapel with some close fiends and family then head off with them to a dinner in a nice restaurant. I also like deserted places. Last year, Mai and Tom wedded in a mountain in Vermont with just close family and friends and I think it was a terrific idea. I like a quiet, close-to-nature, and relaxing place where we can then be naked and freely do anything we want.

But I think the detail of the wedding is not important. It’s all about love. It’s all about the other half of mine. And it’s about our commitment and how we can keep our commitment survived once we made it to the public. A big question is: ARE WE ABLE TO COMMIT TO EACH OTHER?

Well, I have been worried too far ahead of time. The reality is that I firstly need to find my true love (though I am not sure about the concept of “true love”). Should I say I love you on this Valentine’s? Aging (hic, I am an old, fat and bald guy) and experience have made me so reluctant to say: “I love you”. I’d rather continue saying: “I like you” or don’t say anything. It might take me at least 6 months or so to say the big words. And I don’t believe in someone who said to me: “I love you” after a short period of time knowing each other.

My friends, I would like to hear about the kinds of wedding you do want or you did have.